I've been in a prolonged fight with a friend over some serious, high-stakes differences. We never seemed to get far, or even get worse. But over the last two weeks I tried to move the conversation from live talk to text chat. And it really helped. Among other things it slowed things down, giving both of us more chances to think and observe the conversation instead of reacting reflexively.

So moving down the ladder of mode intensity and intimacy was more useful than climbing up in this case.

There's a growing body of knowledge about making more out of those situations. The most popular seems to be Crucial Conversations, from the book of that name. Anna Liu graduated from a Crucial Conversations workshop, blogging some of her lessons learned, starting with:

"Get Unstuck: how to spot the conversations that are keeping us from results, and get unstuck with not only changing the content, but also address the recurring problem pattern and work on the relationship."

There's always more to learn from master communicators.

I'd love to see tools that work with Skype to improve the quality of my dialog.

1. A wizard that gathers my talking points and helps me keep my focus?
2. A stress analyzer prompting me to take a breath and slow down?
3. A talking vs. listening meter?
4. A notetaking tool that keeps my notes with the call history? That timestamps each line, like in a chat, but the notes are just for me?
5. A wizard that debriefs me after a call? Asking for promises made and received, follow-up calls or other action needed, loops to close? That invites me to add metadata, like tags or project names, to the call record?

Will there be anything like this showing at Monday's WidgetsLive event?